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Come to think of it she could be you or she could be crossdresser admirers if we were to be dating a married man. Stan — a man in his late 50s, originally from the North East, now living and working in Florida. He is a long-time admirer of crossdressers and MTF transsexuals.
I am very sad to say that while I was considering your offer of clarification I discovered that Steve did indeed have a pre-arranged sex tryst scheduled while he was out on business in New York. I could not take the pain anymore. I have been aware ofdates, and pre arranged hotel rooms in the past. Naturally these things upset me and I plead, with Stan to end them. I cried, name called, and generally bitched until I had to leave the house due to frustration.
The more anxious and suspicious I got the more he withdrew. I have been more tolerant with this problem than with any relationship in my past. I am truly heartbroken that it has come to this. From the start I had no idea where to go with this situation.
I went to bars and he introduced me to a TG friend of his. It was a pleasant meeting. There was no valuable guidance. I certainly do not have a Personal vendetta against Transgenders. I asked Stan over and over for understanding. Stan could not clarify the situation. Every time I found that he was flirting or chatting with a TG it sent me into an emotional frenzy. He ask me to tell no one as crossdresser admirers protect his reputation. The fact that I had no one to turn to just made it worse. Imagine if you had a problem that was destroying your marriage and NO ONE to confide in because you are protecting your beloved spouse.
It stays bottled up and the pressure expands with every incident. Yes i am heart broken. Again I weep as I type this letter. I do not expect a resolve from you. I am just giving you a perspective from the other side. I will pray that as time goes by that Stan finds happiness and comfort in life.
What a tough situation for Stan, I thought. His wife had pretty well laid down an ultimatum that he cease his practice of going to rendezvous with crossdressers yet here he crossdresser admirers on a business trip to New York which, next to Los Angeles, is THE place to go to meet pretty crossdressers.
He was yet to arrive in New York and already all kinds of excrement was hitting the fan! But what had this to do with our heroine? Thank you for sharing Susan. I am sorry for the two of you that you both have not been able to resolve the issues around his addiction and the feeling it causes for you.
I am also sorry that you write this was your final message. I do not enjoy that you are in distress but I have felt very honored that you have at least opened up to me.
I see from the dates on the s that it was getting close to Christmas so perhaps our heroine, single and with family mostly estranged, had a lot of time on her hands. She wrote a very long message back to Susan. The subject changed to:. It is a strange world in which we live. It is very hard to fully understand this world. Some people make a very good living trying to explain the mysteries of our world to other people. The mysteries come in many forms: why do volcanoes erupt?
Why do hurricanes happen? Why are some people crossdressers and why are some other people attracted to them? Why do I love to cross dress but I have no strong desire to be a woman? When I was a teenager why did the mere act of wearing lingerie cause in me enough sexual arousal that it led to ejaculation followed by revulsion.
For the most part these questions have remained idle curiosities. I do not know your Stan very well. Am I right to assume you two have been married about two years? As I recall when I met him two years ago I would have gladly gone to bed with that handsome man but the time was not right for him. He crossdresser admirers certainly trying to control his addiction.
I intentionally use the word addiction because I think that people with an obsessive behavior, sexual or otherwise, are as addicted to that behavior as an alcoholic is to drink, a smoker to cigarettes. We are conditioned through life that men are meant to be with women and that one person is meant to have one partner, for life: that crossdresser admirers the way we are supposed to be wired.
That is the way God made us, we are told. Then we think that some people get cross-wired in that some men have a sexual attraction to other men, women to women. We know that happens. There is debate about why it happens but only a small minority in our crossdresser admirers do not accept that it does happen. However as we grow our minds are being shaped. Some of the shaping is done consciously by parents, teachers, television and other learning media.
However I do remember adults around me saying to each other that I would make a very pretty girl. I had and still have the bluest of eyes that more suggest the softness of femininity than that roughness of masculinity. For a man of a young age it does not take much for a behavior leading to sexual arousal to become addictive.
For an 11 year old it is overpowering. Pedophiles, necrophiles, rubber and latex fetishes and a host of others are not innate interests nor by the time one becomes an adult are they activities that can be easily controlled. They are examples of addictive behaviors. I prefer admirer but it is the same thing. My guess is that Stan had this compulsion long before he met you. My guess is also that he tried to control it for your sake but like a failed alcoholic he has fallen short in his attempt.
That would not mean he does not love you. It is sex, not love. I have a crossdresser friend who got very lucky when she met her current wife. After a few months of dating they were getting pretty serious so she told revealed all. It took some time to get it all out crossdresser admirers she did not leave the part out about her enjoying the company of men. So they worked out things. She would have become suspicious and she and I would be in the same position that we see Stan and Susan.
Instead we are a very happy couple together. We worked it out. But I digress. For a while they would go out together as two girls. But that stopped with time. Apparently her partner did not like it when she could sense male interest in the two of them as women. So now Linda goes out on her own. She does not tell her partner what is going on but her now wife has the general idea.
My gosh! How did I drift so far off course? I probably should not send this to you but I will anyway. Secondly it is wrong to stereotype all us transgender folks as ticking time bombs of STDs. We want to stay clean as much as the next person does. Well, that was quite something to see myself as the crossdresser admirers of a treatise on crossdressing as addictive behavior.
I do not think I had ever thought of myself as addicted but I suppose it could be true. However this essay is not about me. It is about Stan and Susan.
Not long after this exchange of s I got a chance to talk with Stan. I asked him about his sexual interest in TGs crossdresser admirers how it started. If he gives permission I would like to tell you because it gives support to the idea that our sexual patterns are formed quite early in life but not so early as to be part of our genetic make up.
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Linda is married to a loving partner who upon learning about Linda said, "she was part of you before I met you. Although I didn't know it she was part of the package I fell in love with. I don't want crossdresser admirers mess up that package.
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